How to Handle an Emotional Attack

“One of the most painful experiences a person can have is being emotionally attacked”

If someone punched your nose yes, of course, you know how to deal with that. But how you deal with Unreasonable blaming of your old friend who really intended to make you feel guilty?

This is all about how to deal with an emotional attack. 🧙‍♂️ According to my point of view, an emotional attack is any kind of action or behavior that causes to make you emotionally down. The attacker is targeting the soft spot inside your feeling.

Ex: You are made to feel like you always do the wrong thing even when you do nothing at all.

Trying to take something thing away from you that you liked a lot, to make you feel sad

The attacker targets your negative feelings such as fear, sadness, loneliness, anger, shame, jealousy, guilt, frustration or else. Most of the people can not handle emotional attacks properly and it causes them to double the harm by leading to high stress or even physical illnesses. So it is really important to correctly deal with them. 😊

Let’s fight!! 🙅‍♂️

Following 4 steps will help you to deal with an emotional attack in a very polite manner.

01. Identify : Identify the attack before it gets worst

First of all, you have to understand whether you are attacked or not. The simplest way is just to listen to your feelings 🕵️‍♀️.

• Does someone continuously invokes your bad feelings?
• Does someone repeat the same thing that makes you uncomfortable time-to-time?
• Does someone try to make you emotionally trapped?
• Did any activity continuously make you feel uncomfortable, disappointed or stressed?
• Did any person behave continuously to make you angry, feel guilty, shame or frustrated?

If at least one of these factors is true, obviously you are under an emotional attack. 🤞

02. Understand : Understand what they want

It is time to ask yourself “what’s the matter?” to clarify what hurts you a lot and what is the bad feeling you get.

Ex: Think one of your old friends, shares Facebook contents that have awful meaning from time to time and also mention you in it.

First, you have to identify is it for fun or to hurt you. If it hurts you, just ask yourself why?

🌡: Why it’s hurt me?
💔 : His Facebook behavior makes me uncomfortable and it makes a misunderstanding about myself among others. Also, it makes others laughing at me without any reason. That’s hurts me.

🌡: What is the bad feeling I get?
💔: Shame

Point out the feeling you get just after the particular incident. After identifying the feeling you must control it as possible.

03. Plan : Generate options

You have to decide what is the best way to deal with the incident. The following are a few things you can do.

• Simply ignore and forget their behavior as you know it is an intentional plan.
• Talk directly with the attacker by saying this hurts me. Be assertive 😉!!!
• Be silent and do something that implies you are strong.
  The best way is making them jealousy and allowing them to feel that you are perfect
• Show them you see/feel nothing from their behavior.
  Let them feel their attempt is not working or failed
• Go away from the attacker and keep him out of your life.
  This can be the worst-case solution

Or else you can create your own answer according to your situation. Please be professional and stay legal 🤫

Select two or more options and prioritize them.

04. Action : Execute the plan

When coming into this step, you must forget or ignore your bad feelings. Now you are fighting and you must intentionally break their plans. 🏌

It is time to get your actions!

Try each option according to priority. If they are continuously attacking you just ignore what they do and behave you don’t see them. 🤷 Try to remain as calm as possible by staying centered emotionally. And stay happy and energetic even you hurts a lot. 😀